Have you ever dissected the word 'should'? I've been thinking about it a lot lately. Whenever you hear or use the word should, it's often cloaked in something weird. Something judgemental, and maybe even conflicting. It's used to place shame or guilt for doing/feeling/thinking one thing vs. doing/feeling/thinking another thing. It creates conflict, un-ease. Dissonance. I should eat _____. I should do _____ more. She shouldn't _____. Doesn't all of that feel judge-y and crappy?
I've been noting it as almost a 'zing' word. If I'm using it in a sentence - I stop and think a bit longer about what's actually going on. Why do I feel the need to 'should' myself, or someone else for that matter?
Either I should feel good about what is happening, or change it. Rather than should all over the place and feel bad about it. Either I want to do it or I don't want to do it. Whatever I choose, I release the guilt or judgement around it.
Shake should. Do we really need it in our language? I don't know. I'd like to think I can shake it off.